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LETS PLAY A GAME : what is the reason behind crying ???

Just when I thought that things (I mean nights) are getting better …. they go bad again or even worst …. Welcome to Mums world 😊

What a horrific night and evening we had ! Chloe just kept waking up every few hours crying. I even have taken her to our bed in the middle of the night hoping that this would help …. But no ….

On top of not sleeping and worrying you start playing the famus and most hated game : WHAT IS THE REASON BEHIND IT ?

Nappy ? No

Hungry ? No

Teething ?

In pain?

Had a nightmare ?

Sore throat ?

Belly hurts?

Didn’t poo today can this be a problem?

And we can go on like that for good hour or so …. It frustrates the hell out of me !!!! I don’t mind not sleeping but I hate not knowing !!!!!!

Ps. Yes she was up at 6am smiling like crazy 🙂 I looked crazy due to the lack of sleep

SLEEPING THROUGHT THE NIGHT (I wish) … ALMOST !!!!!

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We have a break through !!!!!!

With the most enormous smile on my face I can announce that for the fist time ever Chloe has got up only 1 for her milk !!!!!!! Only 1 !!!!! After getting up every 2 hours for a feed then every 4 hours and then at 4 months going back to getting up every 2 hours we FINALY have 1 feed only ( every 6 hours ) ! I am so happy and so proud of Chloe !!!! Hopeful it means that we are only steps away from sleeping through the whole night ?….

…. If I had to get up only once to feed …Why am I so tired ???!!!! 😊

SOCKS ON 😉

BABY STUFF - DO WE NEED ALL OF IT ?

As you can see on the photo : socks are on ! And they are not going anywhere !

How many times a day do you put the sock back on ? I used to do it 10-15 times a day . How many sock did you loose ? Quite a few Not any more , thanks to some genius who designed sock ons

Brillant product ! As it comes in lots of colours I can match it to the socks that Chloe will be wearing 😁Trully recomend and thank you to whoever invented it 😄

… I WOULD HAVE TO BE A SUPERWOMAN WITH SUPERPOWERS …

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Trying to be the Yummy Mummy while organising christening abroad,organising christening party in UK, getting my driving licence done and planning to decorate the whole house …. It’s proving to be pretty difficult 😄

Before I became a mum I was prabably a workaholic who wasn’t capable of seating on her ass if there was the smallest thing to do. I loved doing things and seeing the end result.

I have adapted very easyly to being a mum on maternity leave, and I love it, love every minute of it. Only thing which I crave is the feeling of accomplishment, knowing that I have done something. On the beginning when Chloe was few days old it was cooking a dinner. Most of the time now it will be cleaning the house , doing and putting away washing, going shopping etc …. Did you get the amazing feeling of achieving something really big and important after cleaning a bathroom when your baby was a month old ?? 😁 (heheheh times has really changed). Chloe is getting bigger and so is my need to complete and achieve things😊 as if being a mum wasn’t enough.

Chloe obviously comes first : keeping her entertain, going for a walk, playing with her and going to baby classes it’s a priority. That leaves me time when she naps, around 20 minutes in between the naps and some time in the evening to do everything what I mentioned above + everyday running of the house + trying to spend some time with my husband ….. As you can imagine it all was proven a bit difficult to achieve 😄

I needed to realise that I am not a superwoman with superpowers (Just a superwoman) .

With lack of superpowers I needed to step back, re prioritise, do one thing at the time and stay focus!

So of we went with organising Christning. Finding lots of restaurants and hotels in Poland while seating in Coffeeshop with Chloe sleeping. Then on her second nap if followed up on all of the RVPS and in the evening checking them and sending emails to all of them. Now because I did it on Friday night it it meant that i had to wait till Monday to hear back. It made me feel soooooo good ! ! !

Now we have to buy light stroller for travelling as I am not doing it again with out everyday pram (nightmare) highchair, travel cot and lots of clothes for Chloe. Get the driving lessons booked somewhere, finalise all Christning stuff and then fit in decorating 🙂

……. I will just have to prioritise 😄

……. One thing at the time 😄

6:30 AM BABY ALARM GOES OFF 😁

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I am used to disturbed sleep by now. Getting up every 2,3 or 4 hours to feed my little princess – it’s fine My body knows that nower days we are constantly tired 😊. What I’m also used to is being able to sleep untill 8am. For some reason 8am was always making me feel better about my lack of sleep, probably because I could think in my head oh it’s already 8, everyone are already at work and I am still in bed (not thinking about all of the night feeds I have done) .

Now Chloe decided to take that away from me as well as good night sleep !!!!!!!!!!! Now Chloe wants to get up at 6:30am and play!!! Play at 6:30am 😳😳😳 non of my arguments that it’s to early to play are working 🙂 If I am lucky I manage to slee through her talking till 7am …. Good news ? It will all pass …. Soon? Hopefully 😁

NO MORE BABY SLEEPING PROBLEMS !!!! Hurray!!!! …. How wrong was I 😊#neverending

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So I thought that we cracked the sleeping problem and everything will be now perfect … And it was for a day or two but then Chloe decided that she will go back to being a newborn baby and start feeding every 2 hours!!!!!! How and why??!!! Until now Chloe was eating every 5 – 6 hours at night and was sleeping perfectly in between !!! Why would she change that? 😳😳😳

On the very beginning I thought that she is going through the growth spurt, but after a week of it I guessed that this is not the reason …. She can’t be growing so much !!!

It’s been now over 2 weeks and after another bad night I hit the Internet 😀oh yes again ! I discovered that there is a lot of us with exactly this same problem. Just put on to google: 4 months old feeds every 2 hours and you will have millions of links. My research conclusions : there is lots of reasons it may be happening 😃 (I told you that nothing is ever straight forward with babies)

1. Your milk changes at 4 months and it’s not as fatty as it use to be, because of that baby needs more to stay full or eats more often. That would explain a lot 😊 apparently you should feed your baby more through the day and it will make her fuller at night so she won’t be up so often for the feeds. In my experience it won’t work, Chloe will eat all of the extra on top of her usual 😳😳😳 she also poos so much that I don’t think it stays in her belly for very long time 😁

2. Baby’s are so interested in the surrounding that they eat very quickly so they can explore what is happening. Obviously eating isn’t very exciting so they want to get it done very quickly and eat only the minimum needed to stop feeling hungry. That would be a good explanation as well. Apparently feeding in a dark quiet room should solve the problem.

3. At 4 months they go through sleep regression.

4. It’s normal up until around 6 months that babies wake up a lot and we just need to wait for them to become sleep mature !!

So I will be trying some of it to see if it makes any difference! I will also be begging Chloe to let me sleep a bit more and maybe she will feel sorry for myself and decides to give me a small break.

BABY NOT SLEEPING\ BABY CRYING WHEN GOING TO BED- WE FINALY CRACKED IT !!!

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Chloe is extremely happy baby. She doesn’t cry very often… Mostly in the evening😄

It started few weeks ago, or maybe always was there but just wasn’t that clearly visible, or we just can’t remember 🙂 After a bath, we would put Chloe in to her crib, giver her dummy and her comfort blanket. My husband would read Chloe a story and she would be asleep within 2-10 minutes (without any crying). Sounds like a dream yes? But only for 30minutes to an hour, after that she would wake up screaming/crying. She would be in such a state that we would have to get the lights on and clap really loud to distract her. Nothing would work to calm her down, this could last from 15 min to an hour (most od the time an hour). After which she would go back to sleep. Very recently this crying has moved to straight after the bath. As soon as We would start dressing her she would start crying so much, it’s almost as if she knew it’s time to go to sleep.

As parents all of us, all the time keep trying to find reasons behind everything. Me and my husband went through all of the reasons why Chloe is doing it. From the most ridiculous ones like: She doesn’t like this room, She doesn’t like her bed, She hates to sleep, She is hungry (after feeding 10 minutes beforehand) through the standard checklist: too hot, too cold, wet nappy, unsettled in new bed (we recently moved he to crib), scared of dark, has nightmares. Nothing seemed to give as an answer or a solution.

Got to the point where we started dreading the evenings, it was heartbreaking seeing Chloe so upset. One of another evenings spend on the internet researching why is my baby crying I came across a theory about being overtired. Ok so Chloe didn’t look overtired (red eyes, cranky, crying) but this “specialist” said that if baby gets less than 3,5 hours of deep in the day it will affect him at bedtime. Until now Chloe would sleep only 30-45 minutes in the day. She would wake up happy and start playing, and I always thought that this meant that she has had enough. Apparently the reason why she was waking up is because her sleep cycle has finished and she didn’t know how to go back to sleep, not because she has had enough sleep. With nothing to loose and becoming quite desperate I decided to try this theory . Chloe already has her set times for naps so now I just needed to make sure that she would sleep 1,5 hour twice in the day and 45min on her last nap. Luckily it turned out to be much easier than I thought. Chloe started sleeping 1,5 twice a day and then 45min in the evening pretty much straight away!!!! Yes she would wake up and be up for 2-15 minutes but with a bit of help. Help being giving her dummy, comfort blanket to her cheek and ssssshhhhhhh then leaving the room; sometimes I would have to repeat it few times but she would eventually fall asleep. Guess what was the end result ???? The crying has stopped !!!!! It has stopped !!!!! Me and my husband have our evenings back, Chloe is so much happier in the evening and a bonus that I have so much more time now on the day for myself !!!!!!!!

Cheeky smile

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BABY SLEEPING ROUTINES: WHEN? HOW? WHY?

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I always was very much against running your life around baby …. My opinion has changed slightly after the first 2 months of having my own baby 🙂
When Chloe was around 12 weeks I noticed that she would only fall asleep on my breast and have a nap whenever she wanted to. This meant not much time at all for anything else in the day, and evening filled with either Chloe crying or Chloe being on my chest 🙂 .
After another evening of Chloe crying whenever we put her in to her moses basket I hit the internet…. Big big big mistake…. you start reading about everything what you do wrong, what you don’t do and you should do, and it just makes you feel like shit !!!! Then you start reading about ways to get you in to this perfect routine and thats when your head starts spinning !!! There is around 100 different ways of getting a good routine !!! Its crazy and my head is spinning just thinking about it.

FEEDING ROUTINE
From the very beginning I knew that I was against schedule feeding, there is a reason why doctors tell you to feed on demand. How do you explain to 3 days old baby that it needs to wait 25 minutes before getting milk as it’s not the feeding time yet ?????It may work for some parents but I didn’t want to try it.

DAILY ROUTINE
I knew that I didn’t agree with putting a newborn baby on a daily routine as in my opinion they are way too small for it. First of all they need to get used to this new scary word, scary smells, sounds etc and to do so they need to be dotted on. I do believe that in the beginning they know best what they want and when they want it. Not sleeping, not knowing what comes next it’s a part of having a newborn baby !

Me and my husband from the start have been letting Chloe do what she wanted: we feed her (or shall I say I feed her as my husband doesn’t have a milk coming out of his breast) when she was hungry, she was sleeping when she wanted, we been going out to the shops and cafes, walks etc when we felt like it.

As Chloe was getting bigger and we have been told by all of the informations we found on the internet that we aren’t doing it right we thought its time to set the routines in place. Apparently the reason our baby cries is because I got her use to sleeping on my breasts, she doesn’t know how to comfort herself and she is also tired because she doesn’t have a daily routine. I asked myself what do I want to achieve and what will benefit my baby?

For a week I stayed more at home and started observing Chloe. I started noticing when she is tired ( 10:00, 13:00 and 16:00) and thats when I started putting her in to her moses basket for a nap. I would give her a dummy and a comfort blanket, she would snuggle her face in to the comfort blanket and fall asleep. No, it wasn’t as easy and just doing that 🙂 it took us few days to get the routine going. On the beginning she would cry cry and cry then fall asleep. Now I just put her in to her basket and she is out.
I do admit that having a strutter in a day has helped her and me. I finally could predict what will happen 🙂 and when I can do some things around the house :-).

Did it help with her sleeping at night? no.

We always have been lucky when it comes to nights. Chloe would wake up for her feeds and then go back straight to sleep, it’s the evenings which were proving difficult which I mentioned in previous posts.
She still was for a while, quite unsetteld in the evening when we put her down into her moses basket. I think that it was just normal transition which she had to make.Come on its hard to sleep in a basket if you can in the safe place of your mums arms. We changed her evening routine a bit, after bath my husband started reading her a story. We also moved her basket in the evening to our bedroom so she could start falling asleep there instead of being with us in the living room. After a few days she started to fall asleep on her own and the screaming has stopped.

Is routine good? Yes, it is.
Does it work? Yes, it does but its not an answer to everything.
What routine is best? It depends on you. We have a bed time routine and we have set times for naps and thats it! I still feed my baby when she wants to eat ( which is very predictable now). If we want or need to go out and its Chloe’s nap time then we will let her sleep in the car or pram. I just wanted to have a healthy balance between Chloe’s needs for a routine and having a life.

My advice is yes baby needs a routine, routine which suits your baby and your life. Remember that every baby is different and needs different things, every parent is different and lives different life style….

Thats the moments which make up for everything

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